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 —  August 8, 2013 — 4 Comments




Imagine standing in your back yard watering the grass.  It’s a pretty good plot of land.  There is a vegetable garden with some tomatoes in the corner, a couple of flowering bushes and soft,  and a lush green expanse.   It’s not much, but it’s yours.  Then something catches your eye.  Over the fence into your neighbor’s yard, you see something fabulous.  How did he get his grass SO green?  All of a sudden you notice the weeds, patches of brown, and is that piece just flat out missing grass all together.  It becomes clear that while you thought you had a great yard,  this guy has been cultivating a golf course worthy landscape.  First you are mildly discontented, then jealous, now you are flat out coveting the grass next door.

We have all had the proverbial “grass is greener” mentality at one time or another.   We are happy with our little corner of the ministry world until…  It might be a deacon’s meeting gone wrong, unsupportive leadership, pressures of life,  or perhaps you just see the church down the street has it much better.  Whatever it is the seed of discontent begins to grow.  There is a saying that grass grows where it is watered.   There is another saying I like equally as much;

“The grass is greener over the septic tank.”     


As you contemplate the better yard next door here are some things to think about:

Wandering Eyes

What is causing this wandering eye?  Why are you so dissatisfied?  Take the time to seek the Lord and HIS desire for you.   Is this an irreconcilable ministry discretion or sin in your heart?  Will a circumstantial change really make a difference?

All Grass Has Brown Splotches

I once heard someone say,  “My church was wonderful and Godly, then all the people showed up.”   You may believe, like I once did that you just need a “different lawn,” with a new set of  “weeds.”  Recognize, every single place you go will have issues.  There is no “perfect” ministry scenario.

Driven, Called, Leaving, Leading

A friend of mine once told me, “God calls us to sucky places on purpose. Just because this didn’t turn out the way everyone expected doesn’t mean God didn’t do it for a reason.”  Are you feeling driven to find another place or is the Lord calling your name to walk with Him in a new place?  There are times to go, but sometimes He asks us to stay.   There are times when the choice of leaving is not in our hands.  However, when it is, I believe the Lord wants it to be more about his leading us to journey with him more than about what is left behind.

Think about the Israelites for a second.  Sitting in Egypt all they could do was imagine freedom.  What they did not contemplate was how hard the voyage to the Promised Land would be. The Lord wanted them to focus on where he was taking them however,  due to their “grass is greener mentality “ nothing was good enough. As you look around start by watering where you are planted, and keep seeking the Lord.

How do you deal with the dangers of green grass?

Leneita Fix

Leneita Fix


Leneita Fix is the Director of Ministry Development for Aslan Youth Ministries, a family focused urban ministry serving Monmouth County New Jersey and Haiti. She has been working in some form of youth and family ministry for almost 22 years. In addition she has launched the coaching and resource organization, Front Line Urban Resources with Jeffrey Wallace serving those who work with families living in survival mode. The early years were spent in camp ministry, suburban and rural youth groups. With the Lord’s moving the last 17 of those years have been spent ministering in three different urban areas to primarily unchurched families (New Jersey, Virginia, Florida back to New Jersey). Her responsibilities have included Bible based program direction for children ages 5-18, curriculum writing, staff training and recruiting, discipleship, resource creation and speaking to national audiences. Her passion is to raise up workers in practical, relationship-driven methods while remaining in the trenches with the youth and families she loves. Her goal is to help others understand every student living in a survival mindset can and will be transformed in Christ. One of her greatest joys is serving in ministry as a family with her husband three wonderful children, and her niece. Simply she resides among her friends in the city just living life as a family that loves being there. You can contact her at leneitafix@aslanyouth.org.

4 responses to BEWARE OF GREEN GRASS!

  1. The grass is ALWAYS greener elsewhere. I was unaware of the hidden meaning of this phrase until just the last few year. Moving to the perfect ministry immediately makes it imperfect.

    Thanks for this reminder!

  2. As a former pastor of mine always told me: You will have the same problems everywhere you go. They’ll just go by different names.

  3. The grass is the greenest at my home. It’s incomparably green and luscious, and not a single weed or dead spot anywhere. The dirt, even, is like transparent gold. The trees have fruit every single month without fail. The streams are so pure, you don’t get sick from drinking straight from them; in fact, quite the opposite—they heal the body and the soul.

    That’s the reason why I’m in ministry; I want my friends to come to my home some day. It’s far too easy to forget about that at times.

    • Leneita Fix

      That is so true. We aren’t home yet- and we forget. We “do” this because we want people to fall in love with Jesus and be with Him forever. Sometimes we believe the lie that this “grass” is the best we’ll get… So glad that isn’t true.

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