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After The Graduation Party: What About the Youth Who Do NOT Go to College?

 —  May 28, 2013 — 2 Comments
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It happened for the first time about 15 years ago.  I asked some of my HS Seniors what their plans were for the following year.  Throughout the year they gave me names of colleges they were applying to, and vague ideas of what beyond High School looked like for them.  Graduation day came and went, and they did not head off for college.  They had never even applied. It happens for a variety of reasons,  however,  there comes a time when not every graduating senior “leaves the nest.”    Instead,  while friends leave,  they are left behind wondering, “What’s next?”   Perhaps, they “get a job.”   However,  both of you suspect “youth group” isn’t an option in the Fall.  Should they just show up at the “young adults” ministry?

How do we help in this life transition that may not feel so natural?

1.  Encourage Them:

Some students stay behind with a plan.  In my observance unless this includes moving out of their house,  they usually are floundering around a little.  First of all let them know they are NOT a failure.  Help them think through what they might want to give back to this world.  Have they ever thought through the reality that the Lord has a purpose and a plan with them?  They are feeling like they just “can’t get it together,” even if they aren’t acting like it.  Simply pray, love and put an arm around them.

2.  Dream With Them:

This is the time of life when you are forced to figure out “what you want to be when you grow up.”   Yet, they may not really have a clue.  Help them think through their dreams and passions.  A great place to start is the “Chazown” website HERE.  Craig Groeschel wrote a book by the same name, based on the Hebrew word for “dream, revelation or vision.”  This gives someone practical steps to walk through figuring out what the Lord’s idea for your life might be.

3.    Plan With Them

Come along side the student (and the parents if needed) and help with some next steps.  No one wants life to “happen” to them.  You know look over your shoulder in 20 years with no skill set,  and no purpose.   Do they need to take a year and perhaps work with a missions organization like  YWAM?  Youth With A Mission offers three months of training in a “DTS” (discipleship training school) followed by three months of missions, literally in locations ALL over the world.  Do they want to learn a skill or trade that needs training in somewhere other than a traditional college setting?  What are the next steps to get to their future?  What is needed?

4.  Transition Them:

Typically when someone “goes” to college you find a church and/or Christian organization where you begin your “grown up faith.”  If your church is near a school you understand this.  A student that has stayed they is wondering what to do now in every area.  Should they leave church? Help them with the process of  becoming a “young adult.”  If your church doesn’t have a special group like this,  let them know where they fit into the church.  Try growing them into a leadership role.  Just remember as they are grappling with their future the last thing they need to lose is fellowship.

The most important thing we can do for the students who don’t “go,” is to be there with them.  Often times these youth just need a little extra support  and a push for a small while.  However,  it is easy for them to simply step off the radar due to embarrassment on their part.  Tell them while they may be figuring things out for now,  they are not lost.


Leneita Fix

Leneita Fix


Leneita Fix is the Director of Ministry Development for Aslan Youth Ministries, a family focused urban ministry serving Monmouth County New Jersey and Haiti. She has been working in some form of youth and family ministry for almost 22 years. In addition she has launched the coaching and resource organization, Front Line Urban Resources with Jeffrey Wallace serving those who work with families living in survival mode. The early years were spent in camp ministry, suburban and rural youth groups. With the Lord’s moving the last 17 of those years have been spent ministering in three different urban areas to primarily unchurched families (New Jersey, Virginia, Florida back to New Jersey). Her responsibilities have included Bible based program direction for children ages 5-18, curriculum writing, staff training and recruiting, discipleship, resource creation and speaking to national audiences. Her passion is to raise up workers in practical, relationship-driven methods while remaining in the trenches with the youth and families she loves. Her goal is to help others understand every student living in a survival mindset can and will be transformed in Christ. One of her greatest joys is serving in ministry as a family with her husband three wonderful children, and her niece. Simply she resides among her friends in the city just living life as a family that loves being there. You can contact her at leneitafix@aslanyouth.org.

2 responses to After The Graduation Party: What About the Youth Who Do NOT Go to College?

  1. Christianprincess May 29, 2013 at 12:07 pm

    This is a great article and hit on some concerns I have for many of the young people transitioning out of our youth ministry. We don’t have a young adult ministry yet. How do I transition them into an area of ministry that doesn’t exist while loosening their hold on being in “youth ministry”?

    • Leneita Fix

      This is a great question! I think the key is helping them understand that relationships with the youth min. leadership are not “going anywhere.” They are still loved equally as if they were still part of youth group. I have a couple of ideas I have tried. First would be to invite them to be a part of a short term Bible study in the church. Offer to go with them, or ask another adult to take them under their wing. (i.e. a Women’s study etc.) help them see they are no longer in the “youth group,” however are growing into an adult member of the congregation. You can also bring them into a leadership role in the youth ministry. This requires sitting them down, and understanding expectations will be different. They are being asked to lead, more than they participate. Give them specific roles and tasks, and coach them in what being a leader means. What is important is to help them find a niche where they know they belong. Put them some people in place that are constantly reaching out to them and drawing them in purposely…

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