My friend Jason suggested I check out this Yahoo! blog article about parenting and social media/web stuff and was right about it being awesome. Here’s a clip:

Institute family meals with tech breaks. Current psychological literature recommends that families sit down and share at least 3 or 4 meals together a week. Keep them short–under 45 minutes–and tech free for the most part. Give everyone a two-minute warning to check whatever device beforehand. After 15 minutes, allow a one minute message or text check. Aim to expand the tech free time as your kids become more focused.

Don’t use your ignorance about technology as an excuse. It’s true that kids know more about technology than parents but this is a poor reason for adults to act clueless about what teens or tweens might be doing online. Equally counterproductive is letting a kid spend hours on end alone in their room on the computer so you “can get work done.”

Don’t rely on secretly monitoring online activities. Not only is it an invasion of privacy, most kids can work around parents’ surveillance in a matter of minutes.

Look for warning signs. If your child is regularly staying home “sick” from school and spending the entire day on the computer, if they choose to be online more often than out with friends, or if their grades are suffering because they are distracted by technology, you need to step in and help them create boundaries. With their input, draft a written contract with clear rules and consequences. Often, parents make initial penalties too big such as grounding their kid for a month if they catch them online in the middle of the night. Better to start small such as losing their phone for an hour and escalate as necessary.

JG

Youth Ministry Legacy

 —  October 25, 2012 — 1 Comment

Had a great experience a couple days ago at a local Starbucks -had to share it here on the blog as well as previously on Twitter. Made me think a few things:

  • When was the last time I prayed for the legacy of our youth ministry?
  • I need to be more thankful for the people who have come before me at our church.
  • I am creating a legacy right now.
  • What will people say about the ministry I was a part of today in 13 years?

Such a great interaction … made my day!

JG



Terrace Crawford is a youth worker and the author of Going Social, a new book out this month from Beacon Hill Press with the official site at GoingSocialBook.Net. Here’s an interview with him about his new book and you can read his blog here.

1 Tell us about the origin of your new book!
I meet a lot of church leaders who are hesitant to use Social Media for whatever reason. I think Social Media is one of the greatest tools of our time that God wants to use to help spread the message of the Gospel. I felt I could help provide a resource that would help dispel many of the common myths that keep church leaders from leveraging Social Media and also offer bite-sized tips on how to use it for ministry.

2 What is one of the most common mistakes when using social media?
My heart behind using any Social Media platform is to use it to connect with people. Whether you have a blog, a twitter or Facebook account, or a YouTube channel, you can use these tools to build relationships. You can inspire people, challenge people, and yes, even connect them to Christ! I think people sometimes forget that.

3 What are the best social tools for youth workers to connect with their students?
The best way to connect with students is generally by going where they already are. Students love Facebook, so you’d be fool to not use it. I have seen a lot more teens flocking to Twitter lately, so having using a Twitter account is a great idea. Some youth workers even use Twitter as a text-messaging service because any student can follow the updates regardless of whether or not they have a Twitter account. I also love using Simply’s Communicate tool to push mass text messages to our students.

4 Tell us about your passion for youth ministry – preferably with a great failure story?
Years ago I was planning to lead my youth group to summer camp.  We were literally two days out (from going) and I talked two kids who needed Christ into going along with us. Forms were completed, notarized (which seemed to take an act of congress at the time), and were hand-delivered to me the day before while I was attending a luncheon. I misplaced the forms and did not look for them (or even think to!) until the next morning upon our departure. At the last second I realized I was in deep trouble. It immediately hit me that the forms may have been left at the lunch table… and yep, thrown into the trash. In a last ditch effort I got on the phone and tried getting parents to have the necessary forms faxed directly to the camp. We all loaded up the bus (in faith that this would work!) and circled the parking lot only for me  to find that one of my star volunteers was found digging through the trash to look for the forms!  I’ll have that horrible site etched in my brain –forever!  I hugged my staffer and thanked him for going to such great lengths for students. Then we got on the road and headed to camp. Long story short… the forms were faxed by the parents, we had a great time at camp… and the two students accepted Christ by the end of the week!   I learned several things through this: 1) I hate camp forms.  2) I needed a personal assistant,  3) My staff will go to great lengths for teens! and  4) I love seeing students accept Christ!

5 What’s next for you? Got another book on tap or project in the works?
I am currently focusing on my student ministry and my Youth Worker Coaching Network right now, but yes, I do have a book idea I’m marinating on (but not yet ready to share).  I hope to develop the idea further and turn it into a book because I feel it will help a lot of people who are struggling in the church today.

JG

Real-life #YOLO Tweets:

  • Just biked in front of a car to scare them #YOLO
  • eating ice cream for breakfast because #YOLO
  • Just ran a red light right beside the police station #YOLO
  • Drunk driving to get my buddies home #YOLO they will thank me in the morning

I’m sure most people who are online, working with social media or spending any time with students have heard the term YOLO. If you don’t know what it means, its an acronym for You Only Live Once.

I constantly hear my students saying YOLO, the problem is that this statement isn’t connected with doing anything to achieve something in life, its used as an excuse for things we probably shouldn’t do and often when they have had near tragic accidents.

My desire is to change this mentality: I want to take the idea that we only live once so it’s okay to do something stupid and transform it into the fact that we only live once for yourself, but you can live for Christ.

“For whoever wants to save their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for me will find it.” Matthew 16:25

I want to encourage my students to live life not for themselves but for Christ. Wouldn’t it be awesome if instead of students using YOLO as mistake metaphor, if they used it to talk about their sacrifice for God.

Dream YOLO Tweets:

  • Stayed up late last night leading my friend to Christ #YOLO
  • Reading my Bible with breakfast #YOLO
  • Bringing three friends to church today #YOLO

Now I realize these tweets are probably a little on the long shot side, okay a lot. But wouldn’t it be amazing for students to be living their life for God and declaring it on Twitter or Facebook?

So now its our turn, Fall is starting and our students are back in classes. While they’re getting bombarded at school with #YOLO what message are you going to be giving them?

Kyle Corbin has been serving youth as a volunteer or pastor for over 10 years. He is currently the youth pastor at the Bridge Church in North Vancouver B.C. You can follow his blog at: kylecorbin.blogspot.com or Twitter: @CorbinKyle.



‪#SometimesMinistryIs a really big high five.

#SometimesMinistryIs receiving panicked calls from mommas who need your help with their teens.

‪‪‪#SometimesMinistryIs laughing so hard that you are crying.

#SometimesMinistryIs calling a student out and helping them to see their own sin.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs just dropping by to see how someone is doing.

‪‪#SometimesMinistryIs filling up water balloons… and throwing them.

#SometimesMinistryIs knowing a student has made some really bad choices but always making sure they know that you and Christ love them.

#SometimesMinistryIs buying a teenager a milkshake.

‪‪‪#SometimesMinistryIs sitting by the bed of someone at a nursing home.

#SometimesMinistryIs dancing and singing kids’ songs really really loudly!

#SometimesMinistryIs taking a student out to lunch so they can talk with you about something serious.

#SometimesMinistryIs playing a game of ultimate frisbee so intense that you rip off a toenail.

 

Ministry is Professional.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs scrambling to find one more chaperone for summer camp.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs intense (and slightly boring) budget planning.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs encouraging someone to volunteer to do something you know they would be GREAT at.

#Sometimes MinistryIs staff meetings.

#SometimesMinistryIs stopping in your busy schedule to do the hard work of praying for students.

#SometimesMinistryIs insisting on a medical release form, even though it is inconvenient.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs a non-church civic club meeting, because you’re investing in the community.

#SometimesMinistryIs playing phone tag FOREVER with someone to solve an important question.

‪‪#SometimesMinistryIs the best job in the world.

#SometimesMinistryIs not a job at all; it is instead the calling that your other job pays the bills to allow you to do.

 

Ministry includes Your Own Family.‪‪

#SometimesMinistryIs praying with your spouse.

#SometimesMinistryIs date night with your daughter, even if you have to miss a church thing.

#SometimesMinistryIs empowering your spouse to do their own ministry

#SometimesMinistryIs playing with your own children at home at night, and ignoring a phone call.

 

Ministry is Always God.

‪‪#SometimesMinistryIs sitting at a table with a brother pouring over the Word planning to present it in a new and exciting way.

#SometimesMinistryIs watching a student make bad decisions and knowing the best thing you can do about it is to pray.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs listening to a student explain the gospel back to you and praising God for his Christian parents’ training.

‪#SometimesMinistryIs listening to a student explain the gospel back to you, and realizing they do not yet understand what it is they are thinking about doing

‪#SometimesMinistryIs having to take a step back so that you don’t get in the way of what God is trying to do.

#SometimesMinistryIs just the purest ecstasy of full-on, eyes-closed, on-your-face worship of the One who saved you from yourself.

 

Ministry.

#ManyTimesMinistryIs just plain hard.

#AlwaysMinistryIs worth it.

#Always.

(Special thanks to @ColvinEarl @savedman97 for their contributions.)

Aaron Tucker has served teenagers since he was one, and currently serves youth of all ages at First Baptist Church of Philadelphia, Mississippi. He is Oklahoma-born (Go Sooners!) and Mississippi-raised (Go Bulldogs!), and loves Christ and family and coffee and youth ministry in Small Town USA. He tweets @Rev_Tucker

Here are a few ideas for getting the message you teach at church outside the church walls.

  • I will often have a “Thought of the Week” or some phrase or verse that will ask students to share on their Facebook wall and tweet.
  • We host a facebook group for Student Leadership Team, this is a great place to train, ask questions, and encourage a specific group of students.
  • Sometimes I post a preview video on our youth ministries facebook page. This is simply a short video (30-45 sec) letting them know what we will be talking about the next time we meet.
  • I have not played this with our group yet but I hope to use the game “Facebook Hack” soon.  check out the details at morethandodgeball.
  • We created a segment video called “Off The Wall.”  I ask staff to find and hoard some funny, silly, ridiculous status updates, see the video below.



Recently I have been reminded about a painful truth about ministry life and the pastor sub-culture that each of us is a part of whether we like it or not. Sitting having a coffee with a student last week I was reminded of this:

What doesn’t matter to students:

1-Who follows / mentions us on Twitter

2-Where we spoke on the weekend

3-How many people read our blogs

What does matter to them:

1-That we love Jesus and passionately model that relationship to them.

2-That we sincerely care about their life and their story.

3- That we encourage them and pray for them often.

In the midst of opportunities and distractions, its so easy to forget that the students that we lead don’t care about all the other stuff. They just need us to Pastor and lead them, to accept them and encourage them, be there when we say we will and passionately shepherd them. Our integrity to speak about leadership is rooted in us being healthy, rooted leaders at the local Church level working in the trenches.

-Geoff (Twitter)


I hit several sites a day, staying conencted, looking for deals, checking social media.  Here are the sites I hit most every day…multiple times a day.

DEALS…
•  I usually do not go to be until after midnight so the first site I hit is WOOT!  Woot is the best one deal a day website and they have several sister sites listed on the right of their page, click’em all.
•  AppShopper top 200 (sort by changed to see the fast movers)
•  Bens Bargains
•  1SaleaDay

NEWS…
•  Google Reader
•  Engadget
•  Digg

SOCIAL MEDIA…
• 
Twitter
•  Facebook

APPS…
•  Fighter Verse
•  YouVersion
•  Logos
• 
Facebook
•  HootSuite
•  Zite
•  Pulse
•  Reeder