I’ve always said, “Giftedness can get you places, but character will keep you there,” for more on that, click here.
I believe that statement. But one of the toughest aspects of leading younger people who want to be in ministry is teaching them that being developed sometimes means limiting the use of “gifts.” This can be viewed as hindering them, misunderstanding them, devaluing them…on and on. Now, to be clear, we don’t want to (and cannot) unnecessarily hinder God using people. But, in leadership there is a balance. And this can be a relationally tough line to walk sometimes.
Here’s the consistent bottom line issue I’ve seen the past decade or so: Millennials (and in many cases anyone who wants to be developed for ministry) can view the Church as an object where their “gifts” are developed rather than a subject they humbly serve. In other words, in the former view, the “gifted” person is at the center of the equation whereas in the latter view, other people (i.e. the Church) are in the center.
The discipleship battle is really felt when someone thinks that to be developed for ministry means they should gain more exposure to decision making, they should gain more influence over people (particularly in teaching) and they should have more experiences in developing their giftedness. Those aspects can be and most often are part of developing people for ministry. However, experience in these ways can NEVER be a hindrance to developing character in someone. And, sometimes, limiting their exposures is what is best for the development of them as a human being. In my view, developing the person for ministry is less about giftedness and more about the leadership heart. And this is less and less cliche for me. In the development process there are many battles to be fought..most of which are not chosen by the younger person being developed.
Too often I see the development of giftedness being at the center of “leadership development.” And, well, I think this is detrimental to those being developed. Being short-sited in the development of leaders in this way, in my mind, is simply poor leadership. Developing people includes both sides, but even though God using someone in the life of other people (i.e. gifts) is important, I happen to think God is more concerned about the heart of the person we are leading.
- Chuck / @chuckbomar