lets talkWe went to the email bag with this topic. Remember email us at talkaboutym@gmail.com with your questions or topic suggestions. This is a topic that needs more attention and dialog. We decided to talk about it in the context of our on ministry.  Also, we probably give the best advice that we have on the topic towards the end.  Let’s keep the conversation going. We would love to hear how you approach this topic within your ministry.


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kurt & ac

lets talkKurt and I deviate from our usual structure (the good, bad and #smh) and we give you our TOP four tips on speaking to students.  We know that for some speaking my come easy, and for others speaking can be a challenge.  So for some we hope these tips confirm and strengthen what you already know, and for others we hope these tips encourage and give you more confidence in the work God has called you to do.

What’s your number one teaching tip you would share?

hope it helps

kurt & ac

Okay, I’ll admit it; there are things about junior high ministry, and junior highers in general, that I just don’t like. It’s the stuff that I’ve tolerated for 25 years because of my love for, and calling to, this wonderful age group. Here are just a few things that make me cringe:

– The “Steal The Cute Boy’s Hat” game that girls love to play. You know the one: Girl steals boys cap and boy proceeds to chase said girl all around the youth room. Why do I loathe it so? I have no idea.

– When a junior higher, usually a girl and usually one with sticky hands, sneaks up from behind me, covers my eyes and makes me guess who it is. I know it’s a way of showing endearment, but yuck. Of course, if I was just a little taller my eyes would be out of reach which is why my junior high ministry buddy, Scott Rubin, has no idea this ritual even exists!

– The relentless questions by some students that just don’t need to be asked! Hey, I’m all for inquisitiveness and discovery…that’s a really fun part about working with young teens. But I’m not talking about that stuff; I’m talking about the kid who, while at camp, fires a barrage of unimportant, or previously answered questions: “When is lunch?”, “What do we do during chapel?”, “Why isn’t there any fruit loops?”, “How long is free time?”, “What do I do if I get bored?”, “Am I allowed to get a drink of water on my own?”. You know the kid I’m talking about.

– Close Talkers. I’m apposed to close talkers of all ages, and I think the habit starts in junior high when students are dying for attention and want to make sure they are getting it….in an up-close and personal way. So, in an effort to prevent them from a life of extremely awkward conversations (of course, close talkers don’t find it awkward AT ALL), I simply don’t tolerate the practice. I’m cringing just thinking about close talkers.

– That game they play at the table at camp…the one where they move their cups around and stack them to some sort of beat. I’m sure this dumb game has a name, but I’ve never stuck around in its presence long enough to learn it.

I’m sure there are other things that make me cringe, but those are the ones that came rushing to my fingertips as soon as I started to type.

Here’s your chance to vent (it feels pretty good, and it’s okay to do once in a while…). What about junior high ministry makes you cringe?

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Small groups was our very first request for a topic (you can send your topic requests to talkaboutym@gmail.com). So here we go!

Small Groups are the lifeblood for many youth ministries, and for good reason! I’ve often said that if I was told by our Pastor that we could only do ONE thing in our ministry the one thing we would do is small groups. Workshops have been taught and books written on the topic, and today we add a few simple “Good, Bad and #SMH” thoughts of our own on the newest episode of “Let’s Talk About Youth Ministry”.

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– Amber Cassady aka the new girl aka AC

article.2013.06.19Actually, you can lose the support of parents in 10 MINUTES, but we wanted this week’s theme to be consistent. Uninformed youth workers often criticize parents as standing in the way of youth ministry. This makes us laugh…and then cry. We hope you get this: Youth ministry is about caring for students and families and parents as they raise their children. It is our job to come alongside them as the church and support them in this calling. We don’t always get it right, in fact today we’ve got three ways youth workers often miss the mark when it comes to parents.

We don’t let them know what is happening in youth group.

Youth group is the best-kept secret in the church! How cool would it be if parents knew the lessons ahead of time and could have the opportunity to discuss it before they left for group? Or at least had some tools on the back end to help them discuss at home what they learned at church… Too often we move from lesson to lesson and program to program without even the most basic communication to parents.

We don’t return phone calls.
It doesn’t matter what type of communication you prefer. For many parents, hearing a voice over the phone is far and away the best message. When you don’t return a phone call it subtracts equity from your ministry. It doesn’t take long before you are overdrawn. If you aren’t a phone person…who cares? You need to become one because a phone call is the love language of most parents these days.

We keep the spiritual growth of their child a mystery.

This year we’re trying to go public with the spiritual progress of each student. We’re not hanging a star chart on the wall of the youth room, but hoping to connect parents and small group leaders every month in some tangible way. Maybe in a personal email, a coffee date, or even a breakfast gathering that would function more like a parent-teacher conference than anything else.

How else do we lose parents in our ministry?

This post was written by Josh Griffin and Kurt Johnston and originally appeared as part of Simply Youth Ministry Today free newsletter. Subscribe to SYM Today right here.

You’ve probably heard something like this dozens of times:

“Great message this week. Hey…what do you do all week anyhow?”

The tempting response is to punch that person in the neck (in love, of course). But a better response might be to actually be ready to give a quick answer to an honest question. We don’t always reply this way, but here is one example.

Serve students faithfully.

We got into this because of our love for students. Something about that age still resonates with us as we remember how critical this stage was in our lives and in our spiritual development. What do we do all day? Serve students. Talk to them about life. Nudge them toward Jesus. Call them out. Empower our leaders to do the same.

Equip parents and volunteers strategically.
What do we do all day? We create tools and resources to help our team of incredible people minister to students. We write talks and lessons and experiment with all sorts of ideas to help moms and dads love their teenagers more and empower them to spiritually disciple their own children. We celebrate when leaders bring someone to Christ or when a parent sees a wayward son or daughter come home.

Love the church wholeheartedly.

We love youth ministry—but we’re all about the whole church, too. Part of what we do all week is caring for adults and helping our teenagers not just fall in love with youth group but want to be a part of an adult movement that is changing the world for Jesus. We want to do whatever we can to help the whole organization be healthy.

Love our community unconditionally.
Part of what we do all week is love people—love our neighbor, love our spouse, and love our kids. I (Josh) serve in the community and chaplain the Cub Scout pack down the road. Ultimately what we get paid to do all week is love God and love students.

P.S. Obviously Josh also spends a good portion of each week doing calf exercises.

“So … what do you do all week?”

This post was written by Josh Griffin and Kurt Johnston and originally appeared as part of Simply Youth Ministry Today free newsletter. Subscribe to SYM Today right here.

article.2013.06.11It seems like much of what’s written to help youth workers only addresses those who are married: balancing life with kids, making time for your spouse, and the like. All good and important stuff, but a little alienating to the incredible youth workers who are doing ministry as a single person. Today we’ve got some insight for youth workers who are single and serving.

Set up clear boundaries.
Just because you’re not married doesn’t mean you should work like the devil. Satan has never been a strong example to follow and there’s no doubt if he can’t get our hearts, he’ll make us busy—even busy doing the Lord’s work. Making sure you have space for a life outside of the church is wise and will help you keep a healthy balance as you march one step at a time toward longevity. Don’t allow yourself to be run ragged just because you don’t have a family expecting you home for dinner each night.

Take advantage of the single life.

Not intending to say the opposite of what we just said above…but take advantage of some of the freedoms the single life brings, and invest relationally with students. Grab dinners with families; enjoy an extra night out at a sporting event or visiting a small group. Don’t be afraid to keep clear boundaries, but also use this season strategically, too.

Go back to school.
One of the ways you can maximize your time as a single youth worker is to go back to school while you continue serving. While it might not sound appealing, think about how much better it is than with a spouse and four kids at home on top of your 45+ hour a week job. For many youth workers, if they don’t go back to school in this window of their lives, they’ll never go back at all.
Never leave room for speculation.

Being single in ministry increases the attention to your relationships, and unfortunately perception can become reality as you minister to teens. Make sure you always are keenly aware of your perception. Make sure you never counsel students of the opposite sex alone. Make sure you are above reproach since you may be under increased scrutiny.

Look for love outside of the church, too.

Too often we hear about single youth workers getting set up by everyone and their mother (literally!). Everyone knows the great guy for the single youth worker or the perfect woman who will complete you as a youth pastor. Forget it! While you just might find Mr. Right within the church walls, make sure you have a healthy life outside the church in case God has them there, too.

What advice would you give single youth workers?

This post was written by Josh Griffin and Kurt Johnston and originally appeared as part of Simply Youth Ministry Today free newsletter. Subscribe to SYM Today right here.