How are you Feeling?

 —  September 3, 2014 — 1 Comment

7812924Some days, I could care less.

Other days, I couldn’t care more.

It doesn’t matter what the topic is… there are days when my feelings get bullied by my logic, and other days when my emotions want to rule my life.

How are you feeling?

It’s the question that you are either ask too much or ask too little. Why is that?

In his book “The Emotionally Healthy Church Planter,” Pete Scazzero masterfully points out that ministry can overload our emotions, between the harsh realities we walk through to the celebrations we’d never have imagined we’d be a part of. The challenge is that spiritual health and emotional health are different, even though they overlap.

Emotional health concerns itself with:

  • naming/recognizing/managing our own feelings
  • identifying and having active compassion for others
  • initiating and maintaining close and meaningful relationships
  • breaking free from self-destructive patterns
  • being aware of how our past impacts our present
  • developing the capacity to clearly express our thoughts and feelings
  • respecting and loving others without having to change them
  • clearly, directly, and respectfully asking for what we need, want, or prefer
  • accurately assessing our own strengths, limits, and weaknesses, and freely sharing them with others
  • developing the capacity to maturely resolve conflicts • distinguishing and appropriately expressing our sexuality and sensuality
  • grieving well

Focusing on spiritual health tends to take a different approach:

  • awakening and surrendering to God’s love in every situation
  • positioning ourselves to hear God and remember His presence in all we do
  • communing with God, allowing Him to fully dwell in the depth of our being
  • practicing silence, solitude, and a life of unceasing prayer
  • attentively resting in the presence of God
  • understanding that the goal of life is a loving union with Jesus
  • finding the true essence of who we are in God
  • loving others out of a life of love for God
  • developing a rhythm of life that enables us to remember God
  • adapting and using historic practices of spirituality that are applicable today
  • living in a committed community that passionately loves Jesus

(Thanks again to Pete Scazzero for that compilation)

identify feelingsI was reading this and wondering how well I do at integrating the two versus focusing on one more than the other. I’m not sure I have a magic formula to offer you, as much as I wanted to raise the question with you. I get the sense I’m not the only one out there who feels up and down, sometimes without knowing why.

What if that’s why Jesus says the greatest commandment is to love God…

with all your heart…
AND, with all your soul…
AND, with all your mind…
AND, with all your strength?

Not doing this creates the tension that Eric Samuel Timm addresses in “Static Jedi”Life feels like a dangerous place when we are stripped of our ability to hear God clearly.

How are you feeling?


Kreyos Watch…

 —  July 22, 2013 — 3 Comments

KreyosI am a big kickstarter and Indiegogo fan, I wrote about them here and here. I missed out on being one of the people to help Pebble raise 10 million for they e-paper watch.  It looks pretty cool and has great functionality but I just say a watch that looks better on indiegogo that has even greater functionality.  if you are a stats person (walking, calories, motion, etc) and are constantly using your phone (texting, music, calls, etc) you should check out the KREYOS watch on Indiegogo!

What’s the big deal?

  • It replaces activity trackers
  • Keep you connected
  • get info without taking your phone out
  • Info will sync with my smartphone and the cloud
  • Voice control
  • It is COOL!

It looks like there are 300 left at $129…if it looks cool and meets your needs you might want to run and grab one before they are all gone!  I saw mine $20 ago…

Would this watch be useful to you?

Today we hit on the foundation of good youth ministry: Love God, love students.

Love God

This is the first love—our hearts must be centered and aligned with his in order to do genuine and effective ministry. You can fake it, but frauds are always found out. A counterfeit youth pastor won’t make it long-term—and the key to being genuine is to be in a genuine, daily walk with The Father. We all endure seasons of spiritual dryness, but make sure it’s the rare interlude to sincere spiritual health. Remember, you’re discipling your students with your life; make sure it’s centered in the right place.

THIS WEEK: Take a little time to evaluate your spiritual health. Usually, you instinctively know where you currently stand, so don’t try to talk yourself out of your gut reaction. There is nothing more important in your life/office/to-do list than your walk with Jesus. Ask your supervisor for a spiritual retreat day. Call up a mentor and savor the wisdom in his or her words. Eat a meal alone. Talk to the person who is draining you, or finally have that conversation you’ve been dreading that’s been distracting you from truly loving God. Love Jesus more than you love youth ministry.

Love Students

For most, this comes pretty easy…it’s the reason you got into this gig—but at times students can be needy or draining. When spending time with students suddenly feels tough, fight through the temptation to focus on tasks and be constrained to your church office. Get out and be with students. We’ve both discovered through the years that the very best way to stay in love with students is to simply be around them!

THIS WEEK: Adjust your schedule to spend a little more time with students. Linger in a conversation with a student you would normally brush off. Look for opportunities to show up in a big way for a family in need.

This post was written by Josh Griffin and Kurt Johnston and originally appeared as part of Simply Youth Ministry Today free newsletter. Subscribe to SYM Today right here.

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