On the heels of my Christian Pick-Up Lines post on Tuesday, here are some fun thoughts on how to tell someone you’re not interested:

christianpickuplinesYou’ve probably seen or heard a few of your own. After all, there’s only so much you can say when a person says, “You must be a Christian. I’ve ‘Adonai’ on you all night.”

Feel free to share some of your best “moves” to counter a “move” below.

A follow-up to last week’s guys eHarmony video for the guys is this week’s over the top dating profile for the ladies. Died laughing!

JG



I love this funny little reworking of The Notebook.

If a girl has seen the real movie…then she has imagined how her life will/should play out like the movie.

Girls can have an active imagination about love and relationships which are often fueled by romantic movies, books, shows…really anywhere that is telling a story of love and belonging. Most of the time these stories inspire us because they speak to our loneliness or to our deepest fears of being unlovable. And while they may have moments of truth…they are not truth.

We get to tell the BETTER story of what love is and what relationships can be in our lives.

The Greatest Love of All 

We get to show students what it means to know the one who is LOVE.

We get to invite students into a relationship with their Creator AND into the biggest family ever.

We get to experience a love so big that it overflows to those around us.

And when they have learned those truths…they will begin to tell a BETTER story of what love and relationships can be in their lives.

By the way…We showed it!

We showed this video. We laughed at the silliness of it but it paved the way for a conversation about love and relationships.

What fun clips are you using to get your students talking?

After a week of being laid up with the flu, we are continuing the series we started not long ago about 6 things that students need to see modelled in our lives as their leaders. You can check out the other two here and here.

As leaders there are lots of things we can preach that will get students excited, and few things bring the irregular attenders out like a series on dating a relationships save for a series on sex of course. The fact that so many students have a desire to know what the Bible says about dating and relationships means that we need to make sure that when we preach it, that our students have already seen it modelled in our lives first as married people and dating couples.

Dating: When it comes to dating I am all for members of your youth staff team dating. They are young, share similar passions, love Jesus so why not? My motivations are of course to see them find a potential mate but also that I truly believe that a student can learn so much about honour, respect and other parts of a healthy dating relationship by watching someone they respect. If those leaders maintain healthy physical boundaries with their BF/GF and keep their relationship with Christ the most important, it is an absolutely beautiful thing. The flip-side of that is that if by chance they happen to break up, the fact that they are both committed to the ministry and a small group forces their hand to pursue a healthy and honourable breakup as well. From a teachable life lesson stand-point, its a win-win for our students.

Marriage: Sadly, your students have pretty low expectations on the success and longevity of marriages, even yours. They are inundated with messages about soaring divorce rates, growing numbers of people not getting married at all and many having a lived reality of growing up in a broken home. Our job as married Pastors and youth workers to show them that a healthy God honouring marriage is possible. I follow a lot of people on Twitter and one that reminds me about this value is Carl Lentz. He is the Lead Pastor of Hillsong Church in NYC (Twitter) and he regularly tweets things to the effect of “the most important thing I can do for my kids is love their mom.” He tweets regularly about his affection and appreciation for his wife, her talent, beauty etc and I think there is something very wise about that. Celebrating marriage, monogamy and a heart to stay married is important to give young people a hope that their marriage does not have to end as a statistic.

Students need to see healthy relationships, they need to know that it is possible to date and stay pure, and that not every marriage ends in a divorce. We need to do our best to model this for our students so that when it comes time to preach it, the message will be one that they have seen a living illustration of already.

-Geoff @geoffcstewart



Weekend Teaching Series: Facebook Official (series finale, week 5 of 5)
Sermon in a Sentence: Where to go from here after learning the last 4 weeks about friendship, dating, marriage and sex.
Service Length: 69 minutes

Understandable Message: This weekend I spoke on how to find forgiveness and restoration for a fresh start in the areas we had covered during this series. The message this weekend was more of an “outroduction” since we kinda jumped right in up front. Doing a concluding talk like this was new for us – but it was challenging to try it since it felt like it might end the series with a fizzle rather than a bang. But it was great! Hope also spoke this weekend, bringing a great side to these topics from her experience personally in failures and successes. It was her first time to teach on the weekend and she did a great job walking students through a Biblical plan for guarding your heart and helping you find your identity in Christ first.

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: We had a really creative acoustic opener of a Rihanna song, as well as a new HSM Talks video about relationships that was laugh out loud funny and a little over the top. Lots of students involved, and thankfully that last homecoming weekend of the year so we’ll finally be all together once again next week!

Music Playlist: We Found Love, Healer, One Thing Remains, Forever Reign

Favorite Moment: This series has been SO great! So excited to think how students can/will/are changing their lives in these key areas with the power of God’s Spirit.

Up next: Do Something (series premiere, week 1 of 2)

Weekend Teaching Series: Facebook Official (week 3 of 5)
Sermon in a Sentence: 7 questions to ask about your dating relationship.
Service Length: 76 minutes

Understandable Message: This weekend I wanted to focus on a biblical perspective to dating – although dating isn’t implicitly mentioned in the Bible and is a much more modern cultural invention of ours. For sure the Bible does talk plenty in principle about WHO to date and HOW to date so that’s the perspective of the talk. I shared a bunch of personal stories from my dating life including heartbreak, and eventually how I met my wife. The talk was designed to build on Doug’s narrow vs wide way challenge from last week and included 7 questions to ask about their current/future dating relationships.

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: This is the last weekend before our Pumpkinfest event, so we spent a little chink of the program with a funny skit that included an awkward robot and our stage emcee. Really funny stuff, as always trying to make annoucements both memorable and engaging. We also played a funny video from RhettandLink about Facebook profile pictures and dating.

Music Playlist: Enchanted [Taylor Swift cover], Oh Lord, Your Love is Enough, Grace, Cannons

Favorite Moment: The conversations after the service were the best. Nothing like a series like this to get students thinking … and talking. Several students were convinced it was alright for them to date someone of a different religion – by far the most popular discussion this weekend after the talk.

Up next: Facebook Official (week 4 of 5) [Doug Fields teaching about sex]



We played a slightly edited version of this great video about dating during our high school services this weekend. Facebook Official has been so fun to program, especially the weeks on dating and God’s Plan for Sex (next week). Really clever, funny stuff!

JG

Weekend Teaching Series: Facebook Official (week 2 of 5)
Sermon in a Sentence: Want to have a great marriage – then start building the right foundation for it now.

Service Length: 78 minutes

Understandable Message: Doug Fields taught about the different paths students could take to end up at the same destination: marriage. He used interactive polls, great illustrations and Matthew 7 to help students that the path they are on today will help or hinder the relationship they have with their future spouse. Really challenging, forward-thinking stuff.

Element of Fun/Positive Environment: We played a hilarious new game called Facebook Hack. It was INCREDIBLE! We don’t do a ton of full-on games, so when they work this well, it is a big deal. So fun. It was homecoming week for our biggest high school we pull from, so attendance was a bit low but the energy was great. Lots of student greeters, student band, students running cameras, control room and sound.

Music Playlist: Lucky, Yours Forever, God Above All, None But Jesus, Forever Reign

Favorite Moment: Having my good friend Doug Fields speaking in HSM is always a highlight. Talking to a student after the service who trusted in Christ after the message was awesome, too. Good, good stuff.

Up next: Facebook Official (week 3 of 5)