Howdy friends!

Take a look at the Top 3 Articles from this week! We encourage you to check out all of our articles and awesome authors, but here are the highlights this week from Kurt Johnston, Brooklyn Lindsey, and Tony Myles.

 

1. 3 Reasons It’s Good that Your Senior Pastor Doesn’t Think About You by Kurt Johnston

3 reasons

 

2. 5.5 Ways to Really Connect With Others  at Work by Brooklyn Lindsey

 

5.5 ways

 

3. Scouting Alternatives by Tony Myles

 

Scouting for Alternatives

 

Have fun reading and engaging homies! Enjoy the weekend.

- Amber

 

Hey Insiders!

Brooklyn Lindsey has written up a little reverse list of how to connect with people in your workplace. Whether you work in a church office or a high-rise, this short but sweet post can help you to build relationships with co-workers you see everyday!

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THE *SMH APPROACH

1. Be so busy that any request would seem bothersome to you. People love to know where you stand, so be sure to draw a line quick and often. Ignore text messages. You wouldn’t want to give an image of accessibility.

2. Welcome vents about co-workers or other volunteers when it has nothing to do with you. Enable people in their quick judgements and you’ll go far in life.

3. Assume others know what’s going on in your area of ministry, life, job, and so forth. They probably already know everything about you from Facebook, so just keep cruising without communication.

4. Cover your answers like you did in grade school. You wouldn’t want someone else to get off with an “easy A” and avoid making mistakes or winning prematurely. Stay out of everyone else’s goals. Meet your own and leave the rest to fend for themselves; everyone deserves a fair chance at survival.

5. Avoid eye contact for more than three seconds. I’ve heard that studies have proven a gaze that lasts longer than three second to be uncomfortable and ineffective.

5.5 Ask for an apology. Always. Even if you were wrong. Make sure that everyone else knows how often they are wrong as well.

I joke. But sometimes I forget that I joke and live like an idiot.

I hope this is not you and that it will not often be me.

So let’s help each other by running from this nonsense advice and see PEOPLE. People who you want to win—Jesus saw people and loved them and shared ALL that he had with them. It’s our greatest leadership example.

So in the case we find ourselves working in a situation where we can’t see the forest for the trees, here’s some better advice for us.

1. Let’s slow down and be open to helping others. The path of servanthood is the most rewarding path you/ we could ever choose.

2. Re-direct conversations in order to champion each other in life and in ministry. Be a grace giver. Even during times of healthy or requested criticism think about the each person and situation from a kind and considerate perspective.

3. Be a little more transparent about your life than what you’re used to.

4. Offer help if you have help to give. Be the biggest cheerleader your team has ever seen. Show up for others. Love them and their passions. A cord of three strands…it’s not a wussy and weak cord, it’s strong and not easily broken.

5. Look at people when you’re talking to them. Texting and phone calls are great. But make an effort to seek someone out. Across the street, across the hall, in their office, in the church- for a personal connection that only eye contact can give. Don’t be afraid of it. Let it be the gateway for genuine care.

5.5. Apologize from whatever position you’re in, for the moments when you’ve made a mistake or judged wrongly. Own them and learn from them. Lead in strength and compassion. Lean hard into God for wisdom in everything, and you’ll have great relationships as you work together in Jesus’ name.

*SMH=text language implying that I’m “shaking my head” at the absurdity of living this way…because in my weakness I find myself doing some of this stuff. So let’s switch gears together, set the pace, and be an example for believers.

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Parents Ministry, Family Ministry, or Inter-generational Ministry whatever you want to call it seems to be the hot button topic in youth ministry today. From mega churches who are learning about it to smaller country churches who have been doing it forever but want to get a fresh perspective on it, we all cannot debate it’s place in our job description or its value on the spiritual development of our students.

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While there are many different theories and strategies out there, I’ll give you an insight to one that has taken off at our church. When I hold a parents meeting I cannot get more than three or four sets of parents there at the same time. So the nifty resources I get for them only make it in the hands of a few parents. So how to get the other parents resourced became a priority. So I designed a nice looking resource table, placed it in the church foyer, and since then I cannot keep the resources on the table. I could make guesses as to why it works, our parents want help but they want it anonymously or they don’t want the other parents thinking they don’t have it all together but the fact of the matter is the resources are going out with great results. I’ve had a ton of parents call me to discuss this or that from a book or article so as long as its working I’m good with that.

In case you were wondering what the top resources are at our church, here ya go:

The key to this idea, like anything in ministry is the follow up. When I talk to a parent I ask them if they grabbed any resources lately and if they say yes I ask which one they’ve enjoyed and we talk about it. Plus all of our parents know if they have any questions with the resources that I am always there to help.

Kevin Patterson is the youth pastor at Dawson Springs First Baptist Church in Dawson Spring, KY. Be sure to check out http://www.lifeintheymfishbowl.blogspot.com/ to regularly get in on his learnings, too!

I had the privilege of posting a couple of guest posts on some other great youth ministry blogs this past week. The first was on Josh Evans’ blog called Bloom Where You’re Planted:

These were some of the most powerful words ever said to me. It came at a time when I was looking around in frustration at my ministry, my eyes were wandering for more and I was always wishing for a bigger crowd in a sexier ministry. How selfish, naive and sad. God had called me to my church, but my brokenness inside was already thinking about next and more and bigger.

The second was on Brooklyn Lindsey’s blog called The Best Kept Secret in Your Church:

I recently realized that our youth ministry was one of the best kept secrets in the church. I walked around the adult services last week and read every word in the church bulletin – and found hardly a mention of our high school ministry. Now certainly in a megachuch with so much cooking you could explain away this news, but I know from my 7 years in a smaller church this happens everywhere.

Click the links above to read the whole articles – thanks for the opportunities to share, too!

JG