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Want to Get Fired?

 —  July 5, 2013 — 2 Comments

If your aim is to get fired from your job at your church, do these five things:

1) Whine all the time: Complain about how you can’t get any help, the SP doesn’t understand your job, or how some families are out to get you. Please don’t develop a Phil 4:4 attitude.

2) Blame other people: Make it the students’ fault or lack of budget or missing volunteers for why you can’t pull off anything but lackluster programming. Never let the words, “I’m sorry that happened. I take the responsibility” ever flow past your lips.

3) Use “I’m disorganized” as your personality platform: Look how well this has worked for other youth leaders in the past. But you’ll have to stay away from EVERYTHING app-related since there are so many organizational tools out there for the unorganized person.

4) Get involved with Church Politics: This is especially productive for those situations where the 4-generation family in the church is involved. Over-sharing is recommend here.

5) Don’t communicate anything: Please avoid the church bulletin, newsletter and church web page. I mean, after all-your students aren’t reading that stuff, right?

Maybe I should add a 6th one on sarcasm. It’s REALLY helpful in small church youth ministry.



Stephanie Caro

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Stephanie Caro has been involved in ministry to youth and youth workers in the local church since…well, a long time – 30+ years. Her humorous, straightforward style keeps her busy presenting and coaching at conferences, training events, camps, mission trips, retreats, churches, etc. Her latest books are, “Thriving Youth Ministry in Smaller Churches” and “99 Thoughts for the Smaller Church Youth Worker,” published by Group/Simply Youth Ministry. Stephanie is a contributing author to several youth ministry resources in addition to her regular column “Smaller Church Youth Ministry” in Group Magazine. Stephanie is Senior Consultant for Mark DeVries’ Ministry Architects and the director for their Small Church Ministry Architects division. She and her hubby, Steve, live in Houston, TX. All 7 kids are grown and out – praise God!

2 responses to Want to Get Fired?

  1. Nailed it. After 30 years in Youth Ministry, I wholeheartedly agree. Adding the #6 of sarcasm is essential…small or large, church or non-church.

  2. You forgot an important one, “Not Loving The People You Serve.” I know pastors who have disdain for the laity. From parents to senior pastor’s wife, they have some sort of ax to grind with the church. Eventually it catches up to them and either they split the church with the one’s they like or they get fired.

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