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Be Sure to Drive Your First Timers Away!

 —  August 7, 2013 — 1 Comment

You don’t want your ministry to grow anyway! There isn’t the budget for it, there aren’t enough volunteers, and frankly – yours is a traditional church that likes things the way they are. So be sure and do the following things this fall as your youth ministry starts up again. This way, your first-time visitors won’t come back for sloppy seconds:

1)  Be sure to make your youth room hard to find. Don’t mark what door to come in and heaven forbid – don’t have signage!

2)  Forget (or never learn) their name. Dude and bro will work for a long time, even on the girls.

3)  Change an event’s time or location without telling them. Showing up to an empty room says, “We don’t care about you.”

4)  Pick on them in front of the rest of the group. Oh, and make them stand up to introduce themselves.

5)  Miss the signals when they’re not fitting in with the other kids.

6)  Don’t have them sign in and don’t get follow up contact info.

7)  Create your own “inner circle” and leave them standing on the outside looking in.

8)  Assume they know the “inside jokes” or stories.

9)  Don’t add them to your event mailing list, ESPECIALLY the fun stuff.

10)  Continue planning boring youth meetings using out-of-date technology and stale teaching methods.

That should do the trick.


PS: OR if you’re a rebel and want to have a positive “visitor flow process,” check out this chart:http://ymarchitects.com/137/samples

Stephanie Caro

Stephanie Caro

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Stephanie Caro has been involved in ministry to youth and youth workers in the local church since…well, a long time – 30+ years. Her humorous, straightforward style keeps her busy presenting and coaching at conferences, training events, camps, mission trips, retreats, churches, etc. Her latest books are, “Thriving Youth Ministry in Smaller Churches” and “99 Thoughts for the Smaller Church Youth Worker,” published by Group/Simply Youth Ministry. Stephanie is a contributing author to several youth ministry resources in addition to her regular column “Smaller Church Youth Ministry” in Group Magazine. Stephanie is Senior Consultant for Mark DeVries’ Ministry Architects and the director for their Small Church Ministry Architects division. She and her hubby, Steve, live in Houston, TX. All 7 kids are grown and out – praise God!

One response to Be Sure to Drive Your First Timers Away!

  1. Great post! I hate to admit that some of these convicted me! Definitely need to keep working by the grace of God to be better!

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