I (Tim) am a technology nerd. I’ve always liked having the latest gadget, app, game, and electronic toy. I’m a cyber-geek, and I’m OK with that. Tasha says she’s ambivalent when it comes to technology, but throughout the 19 years of our marriage, I’ve learned that she secretly likes to channel her inner cyber-geek and see what all the fuss is about. She tries to hide it, but I know the truth.
That’s why we struggle when we read the numerous articles that slam technology and list all the things you shouldn’t do:
- Don’t answer calls during dinner.
- Don’t check your fantasy football scores while you’re on a date.
- Don’t complain on social media about your husband’s super-manly beard during no-shave-November.
- Don’t look over your husband’s shoulder and keep correcting the article list while he’s the one doing all of the typing.
These are just examples, and have no grounding in real life.
When it comes to relationships, we think technology has just as much potential for fun as it does for trouble. Here are our favorite examples:
- Social media can tell your story. The way you interact with your spouse on social media tells the world about your frustrations or about your adventures. Our students love when we post our family pics, couple pics, #tbt (throwback Thursday) pics, etc. Take a minute to review your recent posts, tweets, and instagrams, and see what story you’re telling.
- Use your calendar for more than scheduling. What if you hacked into your spouse’s calendar app and added a sweet or sexy message that would pop up in a month? And what if you set it to recur again every 6 weeks? You know it would work out well for you.
- Sexting. That’s right, we said it. Look, you’re married. There are perks. Enjoy them! You might consider password-protecting your phone and tweaking your message settings so the actual content of your message doesn’t show on the screen until you want it to.
- Make up your own. The beauty of technology is that it’s always changing. New apps and sites are emerging almost daily. Be on the lookout for the latest and greatest that can help your ministry, but don’t overlook the benefits of technology for your marriage.
Sorry, gotta go text my spouse . . .
Thanks for loving students!
Tim and Tasha Levert
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