As youth workers I think it can be easy to:
1. Allow your role in the girl’s life to go beyond youth worker…and into more of a family type role. And there are times when this role is essential to a girl’s health and spiritual journey. I think of one my students whose mother lived across the country and she needed someone to show up at the homecoming ceremony to cheer her on. Yet, there may be times when we, as youth workers, can cross the line…when we assume our voice is the most important voice in the life of a daughter.
2. We assume that a mother that is hard to work with is the “enemy.” There have been times when I have sat and listened to a mother talk, by the end of the conversation I want to scream…”What are you thinking?” But most of the time that isn’t nessecary or right. (There have been a few times in my ministry years where I forgot to tell my mouth not to say anything…and that’s mostly backfired!) I think it’s safe to say that 95% of parents want to do the right thing and want to help their child succeed. They aren’t the enemy…they are our ministry.
I am confident that effective ministry to girls includes their parents…especially their moms. We should work to create opportunity and resources to get them talking with each other about important issues in their lives.
Check out Doug’s blog this week as he blogs about family ministry.
Check out this resource for parents:
My friend (a fellow youth worker) and I were chatting about how great it would be to organize some events for moms and their daughters…to help them grow their relationships. While at the same time being sensitive to those girls who may not be able or willing to attend with their moms. I don’t know…could be really hard to pull off but also could be a great idea.
How about you? What are you doing with moms in your ministry?