This week Kurt and I are going after a youth ministry fail in our lives in the past season of ministry, and sharing what we learned from the incident. You got to revel in Kurtâ€™s mistake yesterdayâ€”hereâ€™s mine:
I was teaching a few weeks ago in youth group and during the talk we had a disruptive student. It was a little disruption at first, but a few minutes later we had a full-blown problem on our hands. A student was making all sorts of comments and noises from his seatâ€”students were staring, whispering, and generally completely distracted by the situation. We found out later the teenager has a special medical need and didnâ€™t have any control over what was coming out of his mouth. But the point is our team didnâ€™t know what to doâ€¦so no one did anything.
FAIL: We werenâ€™t ready to handle this situation. Iâ€™m left on stage trying to teach while this disruption is occurring and everyone is frozen or in a silent panic trying to figure out what to do.
LEARNING: The next week we put into place a simple 4-step process for dealing with disruptions during youth group:
1) The speaker never addresses the situation. Whoever is on stage models grace and pretends like nothing is going on. Motor through.
2) Donâ€™t wait. Will someone else jump in? Letâ€™s just take the â€œwait and seeâ€ approach to see if it gets worse. Noâ€¦take action when any disruption occurs. From the giggles in the back of the room, to a full on meltdown, do something; donâ€™t just stand there.
3) Take it outside. Ask the student to step outside of the room with you as discreetly as possible. Usually a knowing look or a fierce glare from a youth leader corrects poor behavior. When those donâ€™t work, invite them to the exit for a talk.
4) Investigate what to do from there. Could this situation be fixed by simply reseating the person? What discipline is needed to correct this behavior? Handle each situation with incredible amounts of care and grace but balance firmness.
General rule of thumb: donâ€™t let one ruin it for all. Where have you failed and what have you learned recently?
This post was written by Josh Griffin and Kurt Johnston and originally appeared as part of Simply Youth Ministry Today free newsletter.Â Subscribe to SYM Today right here. Tomorrow look for a special guest post on ministering to a student with special needs that will be helpful to unpack that area for ministry as well. In hindsight it would have been wise to use another student as an example in this post. #FAIL