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3 Mistakes We Cannot Make In The LGBTQ Conversation

 —  July 31, 2013 — 4 Comments

To say that issues surrounding the LGBTQ movement are sensitive to navigate would be a gross understatement. Here are 3 mistakes that are often made in our ministries:

  1. People make “gay” jokes.  Statements like, “that’s gay” or “what are you, gay?” are exactly the types of things that will repel someone who needs to have a safe place to share. This will alienate kids and make you completely unsafe to talk to.  We come across as arrogant and condemning.  Huge mistake.
  2. People treat this issue as a simple one.  This is perhaps the most complex issue we are dealing with today from a pastoral perspective.  Mostly because it’s tied to identity in such strong ways.  We cannot make the mistake of trying to make it simple for people.  It’s not.
  3. People just point to the bible.  We can no longer just say we’re against “same-sex marriage” because “the bible says marriage is supposed to be between a man and a woman.” This may be true, but it in no way addresses or even acknowledges the emotional turmoil people are in.

What are some ways you are addressing this issue in a positive way in your ministry?

Chuck Bomar

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Chuck Bomar planted and is Lead Pastor of Colossae Church in Portland, Oregon and is founder of both CollegeLeader (www.CollegeLeader.org) and iampeople (www.iampeople.org). He is author of 8 books, including the highly anticipated releases of Better Off Without Jesus and Losing Your Religion. When he is not traveling the country speaking at conferences or consulting with church or denominational leaders, he is home with his family, the place he loves to be more than any other. Chuck and his wife, Barbara, have three beautiful daughters: Karis, Hope and Sayla.

4 responses to 3 Mistakes We Cannot Make In The LGBTQ Conversation

  1. What I have found to work is to make sure that my students know where I stand and why…and my stance is that homosexuality is a sin…but it is not the only sin. It is simply one of the sins that Jesus died for. Then, I walk the journey with my students. Always willing to talk and answer questions and most importantly love them. Just like I do with any other student.

    I believe the biggest mistake we make in dealing with LGBT issues is treat this sin like it is different than any other sin.

    • Chuck Bomar

      great thoughts here troy. i would add to your thoughts here and suggest that God died for each of our sexual orientations. that sounds weird at first, but sexual sin and lust between men and women twists God’s design of our sexual orientation as much as anything else.

  2. I agree wholeheartedly with Troy. And that is how I minister to our youth. All sin must be exchanged at the cross for a new life and a firm identity in Christ Jesus. Knowing Him is our first priority. Then we walk in faith with each new trusting step. At some point we trust Him with the things we still don’t understand. But always, we look to Him for our speech (joking about someone’s struggle is not Col. 4:5-6), our strength in His Love, and how we can help anyone struggling with sin &/or what Scripture says about salvation and formation.

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